From Lane Moore, the critically acclaimed author of How to Be Alone, comes a searingly intimate, yet wildly funny exploration of the frustrating, messy, and, at times, deeply joyful experience of learning how to make meaningful friendships as an adult.
Part memoir, part self-help, You Will Find Your People uncovers the complex, frightening, and often vulnerable process of building real, healthy friendships and finally creating your chosen family. Moore takes readers on a journey that examines and challenges the ideas of friendship we’ve seen in pop culture, answers every question you’ve ever had about friend breakups, and teaches us how to fearlessly ask for what we want in friendships once and for all.
Full of Moore’s hilarious personal anecdotes, advice on how to identify your attachment style, and real tools to create better communication and boundaries, this book is your personal guide on how to heal from your past friendships, improve your current ones, and finally have the friendships we know we deserve.
About the Author
Lane Moore is an award-winning comedian, writer, actor, and musician. She is the former sex and relationships editor at Cosmopolitan, where she received a GLAAD award for her groundbreaking work expanding the magazine’s queer coverage. The New York Times called her comedy show Tinder Live “ingenious.” Both her comedy and her band, It Was Romance, have been praised everywhere, from Pitchfork to Vogue, and her writing has appeared in publications ranging from The New Yorker to The Onion. Her first book is the highly praised How to Be Alone. She lives in New York City.
“An in-depth examination of one of life's most fascinating experiences, friendship. I didn't know how much I needed this book.I needed this book at the exact moment I cracked it open. I needed it fifteen years ago, and I’m sure I’ll need it again in five.”
— Abbi Jacobson, cocreator of Broad City and A League of Their Own
“I can't think of a better-timed book than You Will Find Your People. We're all seeking connection more than ever, and Lane Moore answers questions about friendship that I didn't even realize I had! Prescient and important, You Will Find Your People is a necessary read.”
— Jessica Valenti, author of Sex Object: A Memoir
“As someone who has always felt insecure about the friendships I have versus the ones I think I’m ‘supposed to have,’ this book honestly made me feel better about myself.”
— Rachel Bloom, Emmy Award–winning cocreator of Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
“An essential roadmap for one of the most vulnerable experiences one can attempt: making friends as an adult. Funny, beautiful, and encouraging. Lane Moore dives deep into the depth of what we humans have to offer each other and how we should do it. Why is this the first book I’ve ever heard of examining all the layers of making and keeping adult friendships? You'll want a highlighter because she covers it all. I’ve been looking for this book my entire adult life.”
— Judy Greer, actress and author of I Don’t Know What You Know Me From
"I love Lane Moore's work, which is always funny, vulnerable, and wise, and I appreciate how seriously she treats the project of building a rewarding, secure adulthood around relationships other than the romantic ones we've historically been told are central.”
— Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of All The Single Ladies